Love Series: Be You

In a world of constant sharing it is easy to scroll into the trap of comparison. Followed by its big sister – Ms. Inadequate. 😦 This happens to me more often than I’d like to admit – but you know what! Enough is enough,  let’s all stop being okie doked.
Seriously, if you sense it coming on – just throw the dag nab electronic device! A soft surface to minimize screen cracking – is ideal! Oh and make sure the phone isn’t thrown too far so you can quickly pick it back up! 😆 😆 😆 I do this all the time to try and –

Snap Out of the Trance

Don’t get it twisted! I am all for admiring others and cheering them on but –

Let’s Not Envy Them

&

Let’s Not Try to be Them

Sometimes we have to disconnect from this overly social world and embrace ourselves. Like really – I am not joking – give yourself a hug!
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Appreciate every little thing that makes you – You! Remind yourself that only you can pull off the –

Art of Being You

No one else in this entire world can accomplish that. God did not mess up  when he molded you. The life you have is beautifully yours despite the seasons of waiting and turmoil!  Fall so in love with how you are fearfully and wonderfully made – that you do not even think to be a copycat. 😸😸

Be an original – remain authentic.

You have something amazing to offer this world. We all do!
One of my favorite songs that reaffirms the beauty of being you is a song by Ashley Dubose.

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 If I could pick a soundtrack to play while reading this blog post – this song is it!!! Here are a few of my favorite lyrics:

” It’s ok to be you – You are different – Ain’t like none of them “

 

” You got your own swag – your own style – oh baby, baby that’s cool “

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” You’re supposed to be who you are “

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” Do ya thing, do ya do ya thing”

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Listen to the lyrics and check out the music video –  here . I hope you love it as much I do! 🙂
May you discover who you are and be you always!
Peace & Blessings,
Lonisa

Love Series: Pearls of Wisdom

My whole life I have been surrounded by incredibly strong women!
In fact, the Lord blessed me with the honor of having 5 grandmothers during my lifetime!!! 3 greats and 2 grands – to be exact!
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Photo taken in my Great Grandma Pearl’s formal living room – wearing my favorite thrifted overalls.  Isn’t this red throne & dreamy artwork – gorgeous!?! 😍😍😍
Over the past 4 years, three of them have passed away and my heart will never be the same. I am forever grateful for all they taught me and miss them dearly. Thankfully I will see them on the other side – in eternity with our maker.

We All Are Passing Through

My Great Grandma Pearl is the last Great I have left on this Earth and she just celebrated a birthday on love day. ❤ To be 94 years old and still living in your own home – in your right mind – giving the Lord all the glory – #goals on #goals on #goals!!! 🤗
To celebrate this blessing of continued life I road-tripped to her house with my kiddies and siblings! We took her out to dinner and commenced to have a sleepover! She had us cracking up with all of her stories and life lessons! Listen –  it was midnight and she showed no signs of wanting to sleep! At 94, she was trying to have a stay up all night over!!!!!  Welp, her great grands couldn’t stay up and hang! 😂😂😂 We tapped out at midnight – don’t judge us.
In between giggling and cackling I  managed to jot down a few of my Grandma Pearl’s knowledge drops. Check out these:

Pearls of Wisdom

  • Be Thankful & Grateful
    •  Everything about her spirit exudes this. She is thankful that the Lord has provided for her and that she has lived to see generations of her family.
  • Live Spirit Led
    • She described a time where she wanted to fuss about something and the Lord told her no good would come from it – so she obeyed. She raised her kids to know the Lord and got them in Sunday School. To this day she looks forward to going to Sunday School at her church.
  • Prioritize Family
    • She raised 6 kids and was a working mother.  Being with her children was her top priority and she was not one to go out partying.  It her belief that leaving them alone and not being present – can cause kids to go astray. There was a time where her and my Great Granddad worked the same shift – she talked to her boss and asked him to switch her – so one of them could be home with the kids and not a sitter.
  • Choose Balance
    • In her younger years – an older woman and her doctor told her to “not do it all”! They told her if she continued working all day, come home cleaning & scrubbing, then cooking, getting the kids down, and polishing shoes – with no real rest – that her kids would have no mama. She definitely did not like the idea of  leaving young kids behind – so she let some things go and introduced balance. She chose to let her husband pick up some things – like cook dinner from time to time.
  • Nothing is “Free”
    • There is always a catch or some fine print – sooner or later. Ask up front and don’t fall for the tricks!
  • Get an Education
    • Just having a high school degree means the world to her! Getting a college degree is HUGE! Attending our graduations was always at the top of her list and made her so very proud. On this last visit, she made it a point to speak over my 5 year old and tell him he is smart!
  • Men: Treat your Ladies Right
    • I overheard her telling my brothers this. That as a man you may think you are getting away with mistreating your lady – but it will catch up to you. This goes for us all and is bible. “Love your neighbor as yourself” – read the verse here. Loving God and others – are the greatest commandments
I picked up on these nuggets and more during our conversations. Plus we got to make  more memories and just love on each other! That is what family is all about.

Spend Time with your Elderly Loved Ones

They have sooo much wisdom and you might just get a six-pack from non stop laughter! Okay maybe a 2 pack, but you get my point. 😂 In all seriousness, they have been there done that! Get those pearls of wisdom and family history  – written down.

Pass it to the Next Generation

On this last trip I did just that and snapped lots of photos – my favorite being a 4 generation family picture. Tripods sure do come in handy – so no one gets left out! 🙂
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My Great Grandma Pearl, Granddaddy Young, siblings, and kids. I am wearing a groovy thrifted Anthropologie top – available for purchase – here.

 

 

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Group Hug!
Peace & Blessings,
Lonisa

Ali Ro Black Rose

As a ReSeller Stylist, I have the privilege of curating wardrobe staples. There are close to 300 available items in my Poshmark Closet that span a wide range of sizes. Go ahead, have a peek.
You will find a lovely mixture of pre-loved and brand new finds.
Each piece – carefully selected and purchased as if styling myself.
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This thrifted Ali Ro dress (size 6) is one I would keep personally. She is absolutely majestic and covered in floral applique. I  have named her –

Black Rose

Take a deep breath and admire the details of this wearable art.  Available for purchase – here
I only have one 😉
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Bed of Black Roses
Dear Son – shift out my shot. 😉

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I’ll take the ‘Black Girl Magic & Black Rose Combo’, please. ❤

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Peace & Blessings,
Lo Johnson

Love Series: The Black Woman

Love Series: The Black Woman
Dear Black Woman – This one is For Us By Us.
If you are reading this and are not Black – that is okay! I love you too! As Tina Lawson, the mother of the dynamic daughters Beyoncé and Solange, said on the “Tina Taught Me” interlude:

“ It’s such beauty in Black people, and it really saddens me when we’re not allowed to express that pride in being Black; and that if you do then it’s considered anti-white. No! You just pro-Black. And that’s okay. The two don’t go together. Because you celebrate Black culture does not mean that you don’t like white culture; or that you putting it down. It’s just taking pride”

Please take “A Seat at the Table” and grab you a nice fresh glass of “Lemonade”.
To be a Black Woman is an honor. I love being Black and part of a beautiful dynamic race of people. Every single shade of our spectrum oozes with melanin magic! A magic that has overcome obstacles of every kind. A magic that can not and will not ever be contained.
As much as society tries to replicate us they just cannot pull it off.

Our Swag is Non-Transferable.

Every time I am dealing with my coily kinky curls – despite the toil – I sure do love its versatility! I can rock a fro. I can wear braids. I can do flexi rod sets. I can wear it straight! Shoot –

Our Crown Can Conquer it All!

There is nothing it cannot do! Our hair is an outward reflection of our inner strength!
The world can press us, throw water on us, cut us, try to get us to curl up and lay flat – BUT

We are Resilient!

If I could choose a celebrity ‘Galentineine that represents this well – it would be our very own:

Tracee Ellis Ross

What a breath of fresh air! Seeing a Black Woman that advocates for all women yet never forgetting her own. A woman that is hilarious and highly intelligent. & doing it with a STYLE that is out of this world!
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Credit: Official traceeellisross Instagram
She holds us down in real life and on her latest show, Black-ish, – as the driven Dr. Rainbow “Bow” Johnson! In 2017, Tracee won the Golden Globe for Best Actress in a Television Comedy or Musical. When receiving her award, she said:

“This is for all of the women of color and colorful people whose stories, ideas and thoughts are not always considered worthy and valid and important”

May we all embody that mindset daily never forgetting to help the sistah behind us and the ones walking beside us.
These days I don’t watch many shows – but you best believe I stay on top of my “Black-ish”. One of my favorite scenes is from the Season 4 Episode “Working Girl” – the dialogue plays out like this:

Bow: For so long I have worked so hard to prove myself and I have always asked myself the same question. Can I do it all?

Dre: Of course, you can.

Bow: Yes, obviously I can do it all Dre! I can do everything. I’m great!!!

Pause – on all the dag nab levels! Her Black husband affirmed her greatness and she let it be known that she never forgot!!! Yassssssssss!

Thank you to our Black King’s that support us and lift us up.

We appreciate you, honor you, and pray for your protection daily.
Dear Black Woman, Keep showering the universe with all that magical Black fairy dust!

You are my Galentine– forever and always. 💋💄💋

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Inspired by Tracee Ellis Ross. Wearing French Connection (Size 6) – available in my Poshmark Closet
Peace & Blessings,
Lo Johnson

Love Series: Validation

I found this beauty on my last thrift trip!
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Halston Heritage Red Leather Shoulder Bag
It was jumbled in with a bunch of basic clutches in a random AF rack – waiting to be discovered!!!!


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The funny thing is that many of us (looks in mirror) find ourselves in similar spaces – wondering when somebody gonna recognize real and put some respeck on our name!?!  Ya know, pull us out of the “basic” pile and see our greatness! 😂🤔😲😁

To that thought – I say these facts:
1. You are deeply loved even when you are not “seen” by others.
2. Stay consistently true to you.  & what is for you – who is for you –  WILL find its way to you!
3. The love that the Lord has for you crushes any validation from others. & it’s not fleeting.

You are not forgotten and all of your hard work will pay off!
Your dreams and desires will come to past – you have them for a divine reason!!!

Promotion & Elevation Come From The Lord

My Mother reminded me of that truth during a season where I felt overlooked. I felt like I needed to impress people & whine about what was rightfully mine. UGH! That is tiring and folks are so flaky and fake at times – that you never know where you truly stand. 
To shake that futile pursuit –

Psalm 139 is the Perfect Validation Remedy 

You have searched me, Lord,
    and you know me.
You know when I sit and when I rise;
    you perceive my thoughts from afar.
You discern my going out and my lying down;
    you are familiar with all my ways.
Before a word is on my tongue
    you, Lord, know it completely.
You hem me in behind and before,
    and you lay your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
    too lofty for me to attain.
Where can I go from your Spirit?
    Where can I flee from your presence?
If I go up to the heavens, you are there;
    if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.
If I rise on the wings of the dawn,
    if I settle on the far side of the sea,
10 even there your hand will guide me,
    your right hand will hold me fast.
11 If I say, “Surely the darkness will hide me
    and the light become night around me,”
12 even the darkness will not be dark to you;
    the night will shine like the day,
    for darkness is as light to you.
13 For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
    when I was made in the secret place,
    when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
    all the days ordained for me were written in your book
    before one of them came to be.
17 How precious to me are your thoughts,God!
    How vast is the sum of them!
18 Were I to count them,
    they would outnumber the grains of sand—
    when I awake, I am still with you.
YEP! I know that was a lot to read, but those verses are just soooo good and edifying! You can read the rest here. 🙂
To know that the Lord created you, knows you, sees you, and loves you – changes everything!
Friend – let’s rest in our:

Validation From The Lord

Peace & Blessings,
Lonisa

Super Bowl Sunday Swag

Football season brings flashbacks to my childhood – the traveling, tape watching, and all the fancy perks of being immersed in the world of the National Football League.

Now, as an adult, there are three triggers that bring out my inner football fan :

  • The release of Hard Knocks on HBO – to get hype!
  • My husband’s fantasy league draft – to talk trash!
  • Super Bowl Sunday – to eat snacks! 😀

To celebrate the big game I pulled out some official NFL swag – the leather jacket that my Queenie Mommaz used to rock! 🙂

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I absolutely loved wearing this memory jacket and pairing it with my thrift finds. The items pictured below cost me a total of $10 and they are designer brands!!!

I saw the polka dot top and then saw the Michael Kors brand! Instant snatch up! Long live the polka dot and the pinterest board dedicated to it’s greatness!!!

The purse was buried in a clutch pile, I tried it on, and knew it was something of quality. I did a quick google search right in the store and confirmed that Halston Heritage was a designer brand! I bought the bag for $4 dollars and have no plans of letting it go soon! That chain was made into a heart for good reason – plus it’s love month ! 🙂

These two classy chic finds and the jacket made for the perfect combo!

20180204_231102.jpgTo be honest the jacket is a combo all by itself. The combination of the simple truths that make me proud of both my parents.

  • My Dad – He played football at the highest level for 12 years!
  • My Mother – She equipped her 5 children to get touchdowns in life!

To the one whose name is written in this jacket – thank you for being the ultimate pro. & for doing it with style & grace. 🙂

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Peace & Blessings,

Lonisa

 

Sweets & Shoe Soles

Sweets & Shoe Soles

There is nothing like the adrenaline rush of visiting a new thrift spot! While visiting family in St. Louis – I explored three thrift stores. One of them was the Goodwill located in Brentwood, Mo. This spot only ended up on my radar after doing some Instagram stalking and hearing folks talk up this location! The FOMO syndrome started to kick in and before you knew it….the whole family was getting buckled in the car! 🙂

To make sure we were fully equipped for this adventure – the first order of business was to stop at:

Jilly’s Cupcake Bar & Cafe

I have been dragging my husband to Jilly’s  since before the kids were even thought of  – so it is always on my list of things to do when in St. Louis.  We had actually tried going a couple days prior – but they were all out of the cupcake I wanted. 😦 The second attempt was a SUCCESS!

Finally, the “Beautiful Unicorn Cupcake” was in my possession!!! C’mon who doesn’t want to be magical?!?

 

After demolishing the cupcakes in epic fashion – it was time to thrift!

I grabbed my cart and started to do my thang! But of course –  my sugared up kids wanted to get into everything. Sourcing and parenting was becoming a difficult task – then suddenly it hit me – where the heck was my beloved husband?!? Seriously…….

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Yep, he was straight chillin in the furniture section reading a $1 book he grabbed. Y’all he was living his best life and had me thinking “Umm is this my trip or your get away” ? 🙂

Well it must have been meant to be because right in front of him was the shoe rack. This peaked my interest and saved him from my wifey wrath! 🙂 Usually this section is avoided. I only thrift things that I could see myself wearing and pre-loved shoes are not my thing – nevertheless I started to browse.

To my surprise – I found not 1, not 2, not 3, but 4 brand new pairs of shoes!!!! You read correctly:

Brand New, Never Worn, Thrifted Shoes

I was so stoked to have landed this score!

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Top: Thrifted BCBG , Purse: Poshmark Purchase!

Here are some closeups of the shoes I snagged for my Poshmark Closet!

 

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Life Lesson:

Step Outside of Your Comfort Zone

You never know – there might be some pretty sweet shoe soles on the other side. 😉 

Are any of you hesitating to venture into the unknown?

Do any of you thrift shoes and have tips? 

Let’s chat about it! 🙂

Peace & Blessings,
Lonisa

Hit Goals & Treat Yo Self

Hit Goals & Treat Yo Self

When you hit a goal:

Treat Yo Self

To level set – this is not a permission to treat yourself into debt post – it is a reminder that there are small ways to pat yourself on the back for a job well done.

Let me give you an example: For one week I embarked on a no spend challenge. I accomplished my goal and did not swipe my card for 7 days! As a reward, all I wanted was a couple of Charm’s Jumbo Blow Pop Suckers. Two for me and one for each of my boys. 🙂

Before satisfying my $1.50 sugar craving – I stopped at my local Salvation Army to source inventory for my Poshmark Closet. Then BOOM, the heavens opened up with angelic voices singing (just go with the theatrics) & my orange obsessed eyes locked in on a brand new BCBGmaxazria pleated cocktail dress – IN MY SIZE!!!

I was hoping the dress had a white tag attached as that was the ½ off color of the week. Nope, it was a red tag item. 😦 In Salvation Army lingo – that means pricey and slim chances of a mark down. 😦 

The price of this dress was $10 (after tax)!

That is a lot of money to spend on one item (in my world). The fact that the dress was gorgeous, high quality, new with tags, a reputable brand, and in my favorite color – changed the game completely!

Nevertheless, the war within was giving me whiplash! Should I spend $10 to treat myself or save the money to carry over into the next month?!?  The DJ Khaled voice won by a landslide:

Don’t Ever Play Yourself

The $10 dollar dress with a MSRP of $298 is now in my personal closet! Oh, and I got those suckers too – stackin’ treats! 🙂 Y’all I cannot wait to wear this reminder of hitting a personal goal! Warm weather come through, puhlease! 

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BCBGMAXAZRIA Eloise Saffron Cocktail Dress

 


Friends, my prayer for you is that as you compound victory after victory you remember to :

Take your Victory Lap & Do your Victory Dance

Whether the reward is small or whether it is large – it will give you the fuel to conquer the next goal! Stay the course Goal-Getters! 🙂

Peace & Blessings,

Lonisa

1 Year Poshiversary

1 Year Poshiversary

One year ago,  I stopped overthinking and created my Poshmark account!

I started off with clothes from my personal closet and thrift finds in my size. That way if an item didn’t sell I could at least wear it.

Modeling outfits and then listing  was the mission- but I had no camera man! 😢 My sweet husband made it known that he was not going to have me bossing him around trying to get the right angles (talk about foresight)!

Sooooo I side eyed real hard (prob snapped off) and ordered a tripod with a bluetooth clicker. 😁

My 3 legged camera man arrived Superbowl Sunday! I was sooooo hype and not a dagnab thing was gonna get in my way! My 9 month old was going to have to find another milk source temporarily – because this Mama was getting in the zone!

I grabbed my outfits, slipped on my heels, and got my model on like a bizosss!

 

 

I was sooo excited to have a thing! This new adventure had nothing to do with my corporate grind, being a mom, or being a wife – it was just my own thing!

My reason for starting wasn’t to make lots of money – it was to prove that I can:

Push Beyond a Thought

I would always get excited about some idea, over-complicate, make an excuse, and then do nothing!

One step turns into two steps and snowballs into a hundred more!

  • January 2017 – I made a Poshmark account
  • February 2017 – I made my first listing
  • March 2017 – I made my first sale! 
  • & the rest… is well….too long for this blog post 🙂

The key is to:

Take the first step into the unknown and keep going until it is known!!!

Joining the Reseller Community has been amazing! I’ve made new friends, learned about clothing brands, and sold trendy thrift finds!

Living in passion and making money in the process – is possible!!!


Last year being a Reseller Stylist was a hobby – this year it is a business grind!

If you have read this far – please never give up the pursuit of finding something you love to do!

It doesn’t have to make you rich  – it just has to make you tick!

You have found passion when it consumes your thoughts, your conversations, and your actions – it is part of you!

In summary, as my five year old says:

NEVER GIVE UP!

Sound off below about your passion pursuit – I’d love to hear all about it! 🙂


Peace & Blessings,

 

Lonisa

Money: January No Spend Challenge

I have officially completed day one of the No Spend Week Challenge!

A week ago, I had $354 of “play” money left for the month and I knew that I would be spending a nice chunk of that celebrating the birth of my husband. I gifted him some new basketball shoes so he can pretend to be LeBron in his work league. 🙂 We also had some time together without our dependents (YAY)!

My sister watched the kids and we got to catch up with some friends from our Alma Mater! Then later we went out for a yummy Sushi Dinner!

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       The Yellow Crotchet Top is Thrifted – cost $4! Brand: Free People

Every time my card was swiped I keyed the amount into my Simple Budget App.

After the birthday celebration, I had about $110 left. I used some of that the next day to ice my family with some Dunkin Donuts and fill up my car tank.

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I now have an Adulting Allowance of:

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I have no reason to spend that money in the next week and would like to carry over some funds into February. Based on what that month is looking like – the coins will be needed!

So I have challenged myself to spend no money between January 22nd – January 28th. Having a full tank of gas and bringing my breakfast/lunch from home – should cover all of my personal spending needs. There is nothing that I absolutely must buy and I have no planned hangouts.

Just because you have money does not mean that it must be spent!

Every month I try to pick a week or a few days to spend no money. There is nothing like challenging your inner self and it forces you to get creative! In all honesty, it is a jolt to the system that shakes off that “gotta have it” mentality!

The days that I have successfully spent no money are the days where I have:

  • Prepared
  • Practiced Self Control
  • Prayed (Temptation is Real!)

Fingers crossed that I can keep it going the next 6 days!  I absolutely love that on Instagram there is a community of everyday people sharing their journey of saving and getting out of debt! Lots of people have incorporated no spend days! I encourage you all to check out the #debtfreecommunity and #financialfreedom hashtags.

Do any of you have designated no spend days? 

Peace & Blessings,

Lonisa