Love Series: Validation

I found this beauty on my last thrift trip!
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Halston Heritage Red Leather Shoulder Bag
It was jumbled in with a bunch of basic clutches in a random AF rack – waiting to be discovered!!!!


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The funny thing is that many of us (looks in mirror) find ourselves in similar spaces – wondering when somebody gonna recognize real and put some respeck on our name!?!  Ya know, pull us out of the “basic” pile and see our greatness! 😂🤔😲😁

To that thought – I say these facts:
1. You are deeply loved even when you are not “seen” by others.
2. Stay consistently true to you.  & what is for you – who is for you –  WILL find its way to you!
3. The love that the Lord has for you crushes any validation from others. & it’s not fleeting.

You are not forgotten and all of your hard work will pay off!
Your dreams and desires will come to past – you have them for a divine reason!!!

Promotion & Elevation Come From The Lord

My Mother reminded me of that truth during a season where I felt overlooked. I felt like I needed to impress people & whine about what was rightfully mine. UGH! That is tiring and folks are so flaky and fake at times – that you never know where you truly stand. 
To shake that futile pursuit –

Psalm 139 is the Perfect Validation Remedy 

You have searched me, Lord,
    and you know me.
You know when I sit and when I rise;
    you perceive my thoughts from afar.
You discern my going out and my lying down;
    you are familiar with all my ways.
Before a word is on my tongue
    you, Lord, know it completely.
You hem me in behind and before,
    and you lay your hand upon me.
Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
    too lofty for me to attain.
Where can I go from your Spirit?
    Where can I flee from your presence?
If I go up to the heavens, you are there;
    if I make my bed in the depths, you are there.
If I rise on the wings of the dawn,
    if I settle on the far side of the sea,
10 even there your hand will guide me,
    your right hand will hold me fast.
11 If I say, “Surely the darkness will hide me
    and the light become night around me,”
12 even the darkness will not be dark to you;
    the night will shine like the day,
    for darkness is as light to you.
13 For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
    when I was made in the secret place,
    when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
    all the days ordained for me were written in your book
    before one of them came to be.
17 How precious to me are your thoughts,God!
    How vast is the sum of them!
18 Were I to count them,
    they would outnumber the grains of sand—
    when I awake, I am still with you.
YEP! I know that was a lot to read, but those verses are just soooo good and edifying! You can read the rest here. 🙂
To know that the Lord created you, knows you, sees you, and loves you – changes everything!
Friend – let’s rest in our:

Validation From The Lord

Peace & Blessings,
Lonisa

Super Bowl Sunday Swag

Football season brings flashbacks to my childhood – the traveling, tape watching, and all the fancy perks of being immersed in the world of the National Football League.

Now, as an adult, there are three triggers that bring out my inner football fan :

  • The release of Hard Knocks on HBO – to get hype!
  • My husband’s fantasy league draft – to talk trash!
  • Super Bowl Sunday – to eat snacks! 😀

To celebrate the big game I pulled out some official NFL swag – the leather jacket that my Queenie Mommaz used to rock! 🙂

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I absolutely loved wearing this memory jacket and pairing it with my thrift finds. The items pictured below cost me a total of $10 and they are designer brands!!!

I saw the polka dot top and then saw the Michael Kors brand! Instant snatch up! Long live the polka dot and the pinterest board dedicated to it’s greatness!!!

The purse was buried in a clutch pile, I tried it on, and knew it was something of quality. I did a quick google search right in the store and confirmed that Halston Heritage was a designer brand! I bought the bag for $4 dollars and have no plans of letting it go soon! That chain was made into a heart for good reason – plus it’s love month ! 🙂

These two classy chic finds and the jacket made for the perfect combo!

20180204_231102.jpgTo be honest the jacket is a combo all by itself. The combination of the simple truths that make me proud of both my parents.

  • My Dad – He played football at the highest level for 12 years!
  • My Mother – She equipped her 5 children to get touchdowns in life!

To the one whose name is written in this jacket – thank you for being the ultimate pro. & for doing it with style & grace. 🙂

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Peace & Blessings,

Lonisa

 

Sweets & Shoe Soles

Sweets & Shoe Soles

There is nothing like the adrenaline rush of visiting a new thrift spot! While visiting family in St. Louis – I explored three thrift stores. One of them was the Goodwill located in Brentwood, Mo. This spot only ended up on my radar after doing some Instagram stalking and hearing folks talk up this location! The FOMO syndrome started to kick in and before you knew it….the whole family was getting buckled in the car! 🙂

To make sure we were fully equipped for this adventure – the first order of business was to stop at:

Jilly’s Cupcake Bar & Cafe

I have been dragging my husband to Jilly’s  since before the kids were even thought of  – so it is always on my list of things to do when in St. Louis.  We had actually tried going a couple days prior – but they were all out of the cupcake I wanted. 😦 The second attempt was a SUCCESS!

Finally, the “Beautiful Unicorn Cupcake” was in my possession!!! C’mon who doesn’t want to be magical?!?

 

After demolishing the cupcakes in epic fashion – it was time to thrift!

I grabbed my cart and started to do my thang! But of course –  my sugared up kids wanted to get into everything. Sourcing and parenting was becoming a difficult task – then suddenly it hit me – where the heck was my beloved husband?!? Seriously…….

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Yep, he was straight chillin in the furniture section reading a $1 book he grabbed. Y’all he was living his best life and had me thinking “Umm is this my trip or your get away” ? 🙂

Well it must have been meant to be because right in front of him was the shoe rack. This peaked my interest and saved him from my wifey wrath! 🙂 Usually this section is avoided. I only thrift things that I could see myself wearing and pre-loved shoes are not my thing – nevertheless I started to browse.

To my surprise – I found not 1, not 2, not 3, but 4 brand new pairs of shoes!!!! You read correctly:

Brand New, Never Worn, Thrifted Shoes

I was so stoked to have landed this score!

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Top: Thrifted BCBG , Purse: Poshmark Purchase!

Here are some closeups of the shoes I snagged for my Poshmark Closet!

 

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Life Lesson:

Step Outside of Your Comfort Zone

You never know – there might be some pretty sweet shoe soles on the other side. 😉 

Are any of you hesitating to venture into the unknown?

Do any of you thrift shoes and have tips? 

Let’s chat about it! 🙂

Peace & Blessings,
Lonisa

Hit Goals & Treat Yo Self

Hit Goals & Treat Yo Self

When you hit a goal:

Treat Yo Self

To level set – this is not a permission to treat yourself into debt post – it is a reminder that there are small ways to pat yourself on the back for a job well done.

Let me give you an example: For one week I embarked on a no spend challenge. I accomplished my goal and did not swipe my card for 7 days! As a reward, all I wanted was a couple of Charm’s Jumbo Blow Pop Suckers. Two for me and one for each of my boys. 🙂

Before satisfying my $1.50 sugar craving – I stopped at my local Salvation Army to source inventory for my Poshmark Closet. Then BOOM, the heavens opened up with angelic voices singing (just go with the theatrics) & my orange obsessed eyes locked in on a brand new BCBGmaxazria pleated cocktail dress – IN MY SIZE!!!

I was hoping the dress had a white tag attached as that was the ½ off color of the week. Nope, it was a red tag item. 😦 In Salvation Army lingo – that means pricey and slim chances of a mark down. 😦 

The price of this dress was $10 (after tax)!

That is a lot of money to spend on one item (in my world). The fact that the dress was gorgeous, high quality, new with tags, a reputable brand, and in my favorite color – changed the game completely!

Nevertheless, the war within was giving me whiplash! Should I spend $10 to treat myself or save the money to carry over into the next month?!?  The DJ Khaled voice won by a landslide:

Don’t Ever Play Yourself

The $10 dollar dress with a MSRP of $298 is now in my personal closet! Oh, and I got those suckers too – stackin’ treats! 🙂 Y’all I cannot wait to wear this reminder of hitting a personal goal! Warm weather come through, puhlease! 

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BCBGMAXAZRIA Eloise Saffron Cocktail Dress

 


Friends, my prayer for you is that as you compound victory after victory you remember to :

Take your Victory Lap & Do your Victory Dance

Whether the reward is small or whether it is large – it will give you the fuel to conquer the next goal! Stay the course Goal-Getters! 🙂

Peace & Blessings,

Lonisa

1 Year Poshiversary

1 Year Poshiversary

One year ago,  I stopped overthinking and created my Poshmark account!

I started off with clothes from my personal closet and thrift finds in my size. That way if an item didn’t sell I could at least wear it.

Modeling outfits and then listing  was the mission- but I had no camera man! 😢 My sweet husband made it known that he was not going to have me bossing him around trying to get the right angles (talk about foresight)!

Sooooo I side eyed real hard (prob snapped off) and ordered a tripod with a bluetooth clicker. 😁

My 3 legged camera man arrived Superbowl Sunday! I was sooooo hype and not a dagnab thing was gonna get in my way! My 9 month old was going to have to find another milk source temporarily – because this Mama was getting in the zone!

I grabbed my outfits, slipped on my heels, and got my model on like a bizosss!

 

 

I was sooo excited to have a thing! This new adventure had nothing to do with my corporate grind, being a mom, or being a wife – it was just my own thing!

My reason for starting wasn’t to make lots of money – it was to prove that I can:

Push Beyond a Thought

I would always get excited about some idea, over-complicate, make an excuse, and then do nothing!

One step turns into two steps and snowballs into a hundred more!

  • January 2017 – I made a Poshmark account
  • February 2017 – I made my first listing
  • March 2017 – I made my first sale! 
  • & the rest… is well….too long for this blog post 🙂

The key is to:

Take the first step into the unknown and keep going until it is known!!!

Joining the Reseller Community has been amazing! I’ve made new friends, learned about clothing brands, and sold trendy thrift finds!

Living in passion and making money in the process – is possible!!!


Last year being a Reseller Stylist was a hobby – this year it is a business grind!

If you have read this far – please never give up the pursuit of finding something you love to do!

It doesn’t have to make you rich  – it just has to make you tick!

You have found passion when it consumes your thoughts, your conversations, and your actions – it is part of you!

In summary, as my five year old says:

NEVER GIVE UP!

Sound off below about your passion pursuit – I’d love to hear all about it! 🙂


Peace & Blessings,

 

Lonisa

Money: January No Spend Challenge

I have officially completed day one of the No Spend Week Challenge!

A week ago, I had $354 of “play” money left for the month and I knew that I would be spending a nice chunk of that celebrating the birth of my husband. I gifted him some new basketball shoes so he can pretend to be LeBron in his work league. 🙂 We also had some time together without our dependents (YAY)!

My sister watched the kids and we got to catch up with some friends from our Alma Mater! Then later we went out for a yummy Sushi Dinner!

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       The Yellow Crotchet Top is Thrifted – cost $4! Brand: Free People

Every time my card was swiped I keyed the amount into my Simple Budget App.

After the birthday celebration, I had about $110 left. I used some of that the next day to ice my family with some Dunkin Donuts and fill up my car tank.

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I now have an Adulting Allowance of:

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I have no reason to spend that money in the next week and would like to carry over some funds into February. Based on what that month is looking like – the coins will be needed!

So I have challenged myself to spend no money between January 22nd – January 28th. Having a full tank of gas and bringing my breakfast/lunch from home – should cover all of my personal spending needs. There is nothing that I absolutely must buy and I have no planned hangouts.

Just because you have money does not mean that it must be spent!

Every month I try to pick a week or a few days to spend no money. There is nothing like challenging your inner self and it forces you to get creative! In all honesty, it is a jolt to the system that shakes off that “gotta have it” mentality!

The days that I have successfully spent no money are the days where I have:

  • Prepared
  • Practiced Self Control
  • Prayed (Temptation is Real!)

Fingers crossed that I can keep it going the next 6 days!  I absolutely love that on Instagram there is a community of everyday people sharing their journey of saving and getting out of debt! Lots of people have incorporated no spend days! I encourage you all to check out the #debtfreecommunity and #financialfreedom hashtags.

Do any of you have designated no spend days? 

Peace & Blessings,

Lonisa

Money: January Adulting Allowance Check In

Wow! We are officially halfway through the first month of the year! One of my goals for this year was to share how I live below my means and hold myself accountable. If you missed my first financial post – take a second to read it here so you can understand my approach to “Adulting on an Allowance”.

I started off this month with an Adulting Allowance of $600 – the goal being not to spend beyond that amount. Anytime I have swiped my card for lunch, gas, or picked up a random item – I have quickly keyed the amount into my Simple Budget App. I love this because I can see trends over time and understand my personal spending habits.

As of January 16th – I have an Adulting Allowance balance of $354! Not bad at all!!!

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The majority of my money has gone to – gas. In second place is the date category – I spent $66 for an April date with my husband  – I am taking us to a concert. In third place is eating out  – basically my lunches and random we hungry, don’t feel like cooking family fast food meals. 🙂

 

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Misc. – I did a  $20 Walgreens run for diapers, toothpaste, and hair product. I also had to pay $15 for misplacing my work badge – FAIL!

 

Typically food would be my #1 or #2 highest category. At work – I had a blessing come up at the start of the year! I received $90 meal dollars on my work badge as we have lots of working lunches. I have been using this “free” badge money on days where I have not brought my left overs. Next month – I am going to have to get my life together and diligently bring my lunch – because that $90 has dwindled.

For the remainder of the month – I know I will have to spend the remainder of my Adulting Allowance on:

  • Birthday gift & dinner to celebrate my husband (estimated $200) – maybe less 🙂
  • Gas (estimated $60) – currently my tank is full and should last a week
  • Eating Out (estimated $50) – maybe less 🙂

These estimates show me that I really only have about $40 dollars of play money available for myself. I am cutting it very very close! I am not going to let myself go over without putting in some effort to increase my coins.

Soooo, I have gotten back into:

Market Research Studies

I highly suggest looking up ones that are in your area. Basically the company will email me surveys – I take them and pray really hard that I will be scheduled to come to the facility 20 mins away from me. I will usually taste & review food (yummy) and get paid $40 dollars for 45 minutes of my on site time . I don’t side-eye $40 dollars – that is a lot to me – because that is more than a tank of gas! There have been times where I have participated in a 3 day wine tasting study (held in the evenings) – I received $175 and my required designated driver $75. Shoot, one time I showed up to a study late and they no longer required my participation – I still walked out with $200! Paid for being late & not adding value to a focus a group! Umm yea this is real life! Look into it 🙂

There are so many ways to put yourself in a position to get some extra cash. I will let you guys know if I get called in for a study (fingers crossed) and share I how I use the funds.

I hope that your Adulting on an Allowance journey is going well! If you feel that you are already over – do not beat yourself up. Understand your situation and look for ways to help yourself out by either securing some extra funds or reducing personal spend (where possible). 

I’d love to hear how you are doing and knowledge share!

Peace & Blessings,

Lonisa